Self-Awareness
Look within, make a change, be self-aware, improve yourself. *Nods* But how? It’s hard to change what you can’t see.
A good place to start, is when you have bursts of emotions. Yes it’s hard to even think clearly when your emotions go crazy, BUT something has clearly pressed your buttons! 🗣
It could be bursts of… ANGER 🤬, SADNESS 😭, JOY 😂, FEAR 😱, JEALOUSY 😤 and more.
Find your pattern:
This is usually the reactions from the result of a never-ending story of your life. When you start taking note of your bursts of emotions, you’ll start to see a pattern. Whatever “caused” you to feel that way is usually from events that happened in the past, perhaps during childhood or even passed onto you by your ancestors. These events are personal to you. Other people will react differently to the situation that caused you grief.
That doesn’t mean your story ends there. Take notice of your triggers. Go backwards and see if there is a pattern. Understand it, then choose to let it go. Again and again. Picture it gone! 💨
Don’t place blame on people or the situation, study your own reaction and choices. Ask yourself these questions. Why did I get upset? What was I afraid of? Did something similar happen in the past? What really is the root cause of why I felt that way?
POSSIBLE PATTERNS: Treated unfairly, always coming second best, being the topic of gossip, not feeling acknowledged, competing against someone (that someone becomes everyone), feeling unappealing/unattractive, unable to complete what you started, giving up at the last minute…. and hundreds and thousands more possibilities.
Examples:
For example, I’d go from happy to blood boiling in two seconds when I felt I was treated unfairly in my previous workplace. I’d get mad too even if I heard that someone else was treated unfairly. If my Mum called me to tell me to do something for her, I would so heated, because she didn’t ask my other siblings as often, or ever. Looking back, I was compared to another family member very often as a child. I also felt unloved by my mother who treated my brother and I differently because of my gender. I dug a little deeper and realised I was a lot like my dad who would get fired up about favouritism in his family of 11. I was living my story on repeat (one of many 😂). When I became self aware, I decided that I would change because the truth is, I was the one who wrote my story. Instead of crying about unfairness, I embraced it. By respecting myself more, being confident with myself and not relying on outer influences for my self-worth. I accepted that my mother will always treat her kids differently, but she also shows love to us in different ways. I choose to be loved and choose to SEE love.
Sometimes, we react so strongly about a certain topic and easily get emotional about it, it could mean we’re really passionate about it. For me, I discovered my passion, by what caused me grief. I hated seeing other people, especially women who won’t take care of themselves due to lack of self love and respect. On the other hand, it gives me joy to help people love themselves a little more. I discovered my fire 🔥 because in the past, I let people treat me badly and overserviced family and friends so I could feel worthy. Learning from our mistakes, helps us become stronger. 💪
Whether your buttons are pushed because of your lack of self-love, self-confidence or self-respect, the answer is within you! You have the power to change yourself if you believe it. Then everyone else around you will react positively because of you!
Discover The Power Within!!
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