“You’re doing a great job” my husband says to me.  Those are the words everyone needs to hear.  I stopped myself before I had any negative thoughts of debating his words.  He said “Do you know what your problem is?”.  I waited, cringing inwardly wondering what he was going to pull me up on. “You’re always doubting yourself, when you’re such a great mum and wife but you don’t give yourself enough credit” he said.  His words left me shocked and I started crying.  I don’t know why I needed to hear those words from him but it was just the perfect thing to say.

I know I put 110% into being a good mum, a loving wife and a million other odd jobs mothers do.  So why doesn’t it feel like it’s enough?  Because we need to appreciate ourselves for who we are and what we do.  It would never be enough if we’re continually seeking for others approval and appreciation.  We need to state to ourselves positive affirmations such as:  I am enough and do a fine job with anything I put my mind to.  We don’t need to chase ideals of being perfect.  It’s ok if we can’t handle it sometimes, or if the whole house is a mess.  It just means we need to stop and pay attention to ourselves because we’re feeling burnt out or overwhelmed.  Give ourselves more love and be less hard on ourselves about why we haven’t got it all together.  Perhaps ask for a little help because we should when it all becomes too much.  It doesn’t make us weak or any less of a person. But do not expect anyone to read your mind and help you without asking!   We give and give but we also need to have a healthy balance of taking!

Thank you to my husband for pulling me up on it.  Sometimes I forget to give myself recognition for all the great things I’ve achieved.  It’s so important to remember or be reminded that you’re doing a good job.  He asks me often, “How can you be so strong?”.  I always say, “You just do it”.  You just have to do what is necessary, rain, hail or shine.  And pat yourself on the back because YOU ARE AWESOME!!!!!

Does anyone else realise what a good job they’re doing?  I’d love to hear other people’s stories too!  Please leave a comment below and share your story.